View Full Version : Question for froggywife....
What was it like while your husband was going through training, from Basic to the end of BUD/s? What was the most time you two were away from each other? I am getting married this summer and have always wanted to become a SEAL. My future wife and family life is so important but I feel like I need to at least try for the SEALs. Any input you have would be appreciated. Thanks.
froggywife
05-06-2003, 09:33 AM
well anything i say here will most likely be disagreed with but here is my experience: the most we were seperated from at BUD/s were 3 three week trips which were pretty far apart. One was some island at the end of BUD/s, another was jump school, then the other was Nyland. I didnt see him during hellweek which wasnt a big deal, but other than that I saw him most nights. There were other nights where he was gone, but i dont know how many. The seperation thru it all was not bad for me. If a couple couldnt handle it then in my opinion they probably shouldnt be toghether in the first place because it really hasnt been that bad. I hear it is different in the teams, I will soon be finding out what it's like so i cant give you hands on experince there. But through BUD/s and SQT it was fine. I dont have kids, but I know women who do have them and while their husbands were at BUD/s and they were fine too.
thank you very much for your input
froggywife
05-06-2003, 09:40 AM
No problem (: I also have to say that sometimes travel in a persons job can even make the relationship better. Sometimes you just get sick of the same routine and as much as i hate to see my husband leave, it's always great when he gets back (; we never have a dull moment when he's around as hard as it may sometimes seem when he's gone on those 3 week trips.
tadpole215
05-06-2003, 09:47 AM
you sing a pretty song now, wait until after a few deployments...........you'll change your tune.
I know you think I am being an ***........but later on you will see what I am saying, if not with your marriage, you will see it in other couples.
I am not trying to make an enemy out of you, but I do have a bit more experience with married life in the Teams than you do. Instead of taking offense to what I say, look at it and prepare yourself and your husband for some of the harder times. I would love to get an e-mail from you guys 10 years from now saying that all is good and well.
There will be some seriously lonely times to come.....................be strong.
-clark (tadpole215)
froggywife
05-06-2003, 09:51 AM
I have prepared myself and I am sick of the constant reminder from people like you. The last thing any wife needs to hear is that her husband might cheat on her when he's away. I can see you have no sensitivity or compassion. And you know, you sing an ugly song. Sounds like you havent had a good life, but you dont need to share your bitterness with others. You obviously want to see SEAL marriages fail-otherwise you wouldnt constantly bring it up.
"I would love to get an e-mail from you guys 10 years from now saying that all is good and well."
Such a hateful person you are, very sad....
Great point, thanks again!!!!
tadpole215
05-06-2003, 09:57 AM
Perhaps you need to grasp the english language better. I ment it when I said, I hope 10 years from now you shoot me out an e-mail and say all is fine and well. I don't wish bad on any marriage...............try not to twist what I say. Perhpas you are only reacting to your inner fears.
what ever the case..................read what I say and stop reacting to it.
froggywife
05-06-2003, 10:03 AM
"I would love to get an e-mail from you guys 10 years from now saying that all is good and well. I don't wish bad on any marriage...............try not to twist what I say. Perhpas you are only reacting to your inner fears.
what ever the case..................read what I say and stop reacting to it."
Right....I've read enough of what you said to realize you really care. I have inner fears of my husband getting killed, not him cheating on me with some woman in a whorehouse.
tadpole215
05-06-2003, 10:16 AM
Do you really believe I care, because I do. I did not mean for this topic to get so blown out of porportion
and yes, death is a reality. My good buddy from 5 died. He bounced on a jump.
There are many things that can happen at anytime.
My initial intent was to reply to a specific question asked to me in the chatroom. I didn't mean to set you off.
like I said before, I hope that you guys are of the few that last. I hate seeing men and families ripped apart by the
lifestyle of the Teams.
de-**** and holster princess, I'm not such a bad guy.
Shoot, I might even know your husband.
-clark (tadpole215)
froggywife
05-06-2003, 10:24 AM
Well you sounded pretty rude in what you said initially in family life in the teams. Of course it's hard! Any military relationship is not easy-civilian relationship are hard too..my husband was a civi before this and i was with him and we had ups and downs then too. I even said that sure there are plenty of jobs where a person is better off single but the reality of it is that people are people and they fall in love and get married no matter what they do. You really said nothing positive about SEAL marriages, you only focused on the negative and i think you need to realize that there are some SEAL wives on the board here. Of course my husband would perhaps be better off if he was single in his job, but the reality of it is that he's not so we have to live our lives in a way so that he can do his job and be married to me. And there's no reason to call me princess...and you wouldnt know my husband if you live in CO.
froggywife
05-06-2003, 10:25 AM
I also wanted to point out that you hopped on this post that was for me with your negativity! You pretty much told me that my positive attitude will soon change.....nice.
tadpole215
05-06-2003, 10:34 AM
Actually you are right on that one. This was your post. I am bitter about marriages in the Teams because I got smoked pretty hard with my ex-wife.
By putting out my experiences negative or not I hope people can learn from them. Any info is good info.
Mind you these are experiences with my ex-wife that I am drawing from.
-clark