Buddy of mine has a problem

[Elwood2020]

Hey everyone, I have a friend who basically has no direction in his life right now. He jumps from job to job and he seems all around miserable. I have mentioned to him that he should join the Navy and hell, even try out for SEALs, and he got pretty excited about it. I showed him some pictures and different things that SEALs do and he seems like he wants to give it a try. His only problem is he is a big party guy, loves to drink and smokes weed. I sat him down the other night and said if you want to join the Navy and try out for SEALs, thats awesome, but you have to stop with the excessive partying. He said ok, he'll stop but I just dont believe him. Of course he is my friend and I want to help him out and get his life on track, but I also dont want him to join the Navy if he will continue his partying lifestyle. What do you think I should tell him? I dont want to yell at him, because that wont help any. Iam trying to figure out a constructive way to get him to stop. Any suggestions?

[haydon21]

Give him a chance to clean himself up on his own. See how serious he really is. There is only so far you can push a person to do something if they are only partly motivated. If he is really serious about joining the Navy then he will straighten himself out. I think the best thing you can do for him is to just remind him and be there for him when he is really wanting to go out and drink and smoke, just to say, hey remeber the Navy and the SEALs. I wouldnt suggest yelling at him, could push him farther away. Although for some people, that might be what it takes to realize. He is your friend though and only you will know if you need to go that route with him. Good luck

[Elwood2020]

I just talked to him a little while ago, and this is how our conversation went. I asked him if he wanted to go out tonight, and he said he wanted to go out and party for a bit. So i told him "sure go ahead and drink, smoke, and do everything that will disqualify you from being a SEAL." I think that started to sink in a little, and he is rethinking his decision about his plans for tonight. I then told him even though you have been a drinker and smoker, you can still become a SEAL operator but its all on your shoulders to quit the bad habits now. Hopefullly that made him feel a bit more comfortable, and maybe more confident that hey, he can still be a SEAL and its not too late.

[haydon21]

Sounds good, seems like he really wants this. Hopefully he will rethink his decision about tongiht and future parties as well. Good luck with it. I hope everything works out.

Tim

[Elwood2020]

Thanks for the previous advise Tim. I will keep you posted on his status.

[haydon21]

No problem, Are you thinking of joining the Navy as well and trying for SEAL's? You could keep each other motivated. Well let me know how things work out. Ill be rooting for you.

Tim

[Elwood2020]

Iam actually in the Navy DEP program right now, hoping to become a SEAL operator eventually. I convinced him to instead of going to the local university and partying, to go with his parents to see David Copperfield since they had an extra ticket. Hey thanks for the support, and if your goin in for SEALs also, wish you the best of luck and hope you make it through.

[haydon21]

Thanks, I am going in for SEALs as well. I am scheduled to leave July, but Im trying to get my date changed right now. I have a meeting with the chief Monday about getting my date changed. I met a friend on this site who recently DEP'd in and tried to get the same date as me, but there were no jobs available. So I am switching my date to his so we can ship out together. Thanks for the support though, and good idea convincing your friend to go with his parents. good luck, Maybee I will see you in the teams someday.

Tim

[magneto66]

I met a friend on this site who recently DEP'd in and tried to get the same date as me, but there were no jobs available. So I am switching my date to his so we can ship out together.



The possiblities of you seeing each other even in boot camp are preety slim. I`m not trying to discurage you, just telling you the facts. You will meet new friends there also, if you and your buddy both have SEAL contracts, then you will definetly see a lot of each other in Boot, but other than that your going to be more focused on hauling *** and pleasing the drill sargents than you will seeing your buddy. I`m just trying to help you out.

[ColdSteel180]

This is laughable if this kid can't get control over his own life how do you think he could get control over anything else. Don't fill his head with dreams he can't achive because right now he can't. Plus if hes smokeing dope he can't get into the navy in the first place nor get a SEAL challenge contract if hes done drugs.