Question about Homecoming

[navygf81]

Hi,

I have my hubby coming home here in about 2 weeks and I having a problem about dealing with homecoming... He wants his whole family there, which is great and I'm excited... but he has extended the invite to have his parents come stay with us. (they are flying in from out of state... he doesn't want them getting a hotel) I feel like I should be excited about him coming home after being gone 7 months... but for him to invite parents over?? I feel like we deserve alone time, at least the first night ;) I'm all for having the fam over the next day... any insight? Am I being selfish?

[teamwife8807]

Not to be way obvious, but have you talked to him about it and told him how you feel?
There's a lot of ways to see this and factors involved...
Is this his first deployment?
Is he super close with his family?
Is he special forces or regular Navy? I ask, because what he has seen while he was deployed changes how they see their own lives and the people in it.

Well with all those questions asked :) On a different note I am happy for you and your husband's safe return! God Bless! My husband has been gone for 6 months going on 7 months next month. It ain't easy! Just wanted to give you cheers for hanging in there! I know it can be hard!

[gf273]

If they have any sense at ALL they'll offer to get a hotel or delay their visit a couple of days. Please. I don't care how close they are, you should come first and have this sweet homecoming all to yourself at least a full day and night, or two. IMHO.

You're a better woman than me. If it were me, I'd call them myself and suggest they wait a day or two. Nicely, of course, but still ask them. But I have a fantastic relationship with my soon to be in laws. I could just say whatever I wanted to and they'd do it. But then again, my bf's mom would never in a million years, no matter how hard he begged, horn in on the first day of his homecoming that way. She is a wonderful woman and is very sensitive to me and my feelings. Before I get jumped on by moms saying they had him first, etc...I'm all for families coming to see their son/brother, etc. I just think the wife deserves a day or 2 before sharing her husband. If it weren't for fantastic, loving moms, we wouldn't have these wonderful guys. But you come first. Period.

[Shar36]

I say surprise your husband on his first night home by booking a room at a nice hotel. Let his family have the run of the house for the night while you and your husband have a private reunion! Hell, I'd extend it for a day or two. You can always see them during the day and be alone at night.

~Shar

[grandma273]

I say surprise your husband on his first night home by booking a room at a nice hotel. Let his family have the run of the house for the night while you and your husband have a private reunion! Hell, I'd extend it for a day or two. You can always see them during the day and be alone at night.

~Shar

Ditto and double ditto Shar..... Seriously from a Grandmother's viewpoint I can relate to this subject. Alone time is special in its own way with each family member. It's hard to share but keep in mind loved ones do understand and nights are between a husband and wife

[Shar36]

nights are between a husband and wife

What???!!! Are you telling me that you have to be married for that to happen? I am in so much trouble now!

;)

~Shar

[grandma273]

What???!!! Are you telling me that you have to be married for that to happen? I am in so much trouble now!

;)

~Shar

ROFLMAO.... Guess that's what 44 years of marriage does to you. Should have said between the two in the relationship. ;) Butttttttttt ... I will tell you a Mom will fight to be in front of the grilfriend.....:eek:

[grandma273]

ROFLMAO.... Guess that's what 44 years of marriage does to you. Should have said between the two in the relationship. ;) Butttttttttt ... I will tell you a Mom will fight to be in front of the grilfriend.....:eek:

Excluding the bedroom on that last remark.....:rolleyes:

[navygf81]

Well Ladies, he's not changin his mind! I know his parents would understand, but I know he would be upset if I asked them to stay somewhere else. I really don't know what to think of it. I'm a little stunned, but I guess I should be happy that we at least get to see each other... they will only be here for 2 nights and then we have the house to ourselves. He's just really family oriented. I'm trying to not let it get to me.

[huyah_dan18]

Why have only females responded to this question???? Just asking.;)

Dan18

[gf273]

Well Ladies, he's not changin his mind! I know his parents would understand, but I know he would be upset if I asked them to stay somewhere else. I really don't know what to think of it. I'm a little stunned, but I guess I should be happy that we at least get to see each other... they will only be here for 2 nights and then we have the house to ourselves. He's just really family oriented. I'm trying to not let it get to me.


Yea, and you don't want to upset him. I just think that's weird he wants them there from the first day. Maybe he's nervous about coming home after such a long time away. Who knows. But you're doing the right thing for your situation by not saying anything, I guess. Good luck to you!!

[gf273]

Why have only females responded to this question???? Just asking.;)

Dan18

Bahahahahaaha Dan. Because they're skeeeeed. :D

[kaleigh]

If you have children take advantage of built in babysitters, get a pass for Chucky Cheese for the afternoon and have grammy and grampy take them for a few hours!;) If not I would say send the parents out for a dinner and a show. My hubby is not in the military but does live out of town for work for several months at a time and the last thing he wants to do when he finally gets home is go out anywhere for anything. Good luck!

[lisalynne10]

What???!!! Are you telling me that you have to be married for that to happen? I am in so much trouble now!

;)

~Shar


DOH! Apparently I've been in trouble for a loooooonnnnnngggg time now!

[StevenO]

Dan18;

Dude, you don't even want to go there.....;-)